This is my disclaimer... This is between you (the reader) and me, please you extreme caution as to not share these thoughts with my husband.... I will in good time.... or my head will clear and I won't feel this way....
I am angry, well mostly frustrated. Andrew wanted to go out tonight, with his friend. He always says I can say no if I need/want him to stay home and he did ask me if it was okay, but I know full well that he wants some time off. And he does need it, he has a busy life with very little down time. But I didn't know his plans when he asked me and I try to just let him do what he wants.
But the problem is that he has had a busy week, with little family time. Andrew worked an extra shift on Monday then went straight to church meeting and then went to bed. No time with the girls, no time with me and NO TIME HELPING ME!
Tuesday he worked a LONG shift then went to the church for his hours there. We did have this evening together.
He went out on Wednesday for some guy time right after work. This lunch might have been for youth group too, but it was just him and the guys. Then he had to help his mom with a flat tire for 2 hours. After that it was time for youth, then bed.
On Thursday, he drove his normal routes then went back to the church. Paige told us about her loose tooth; then we had to take Elizabeth to the doctor and had a argument about that. After that we had to go to the store (well more than one and it was stressful, two kids no naps enough said). Then later that evening, he spent an hour on the phone instead of helping me get the girls ready for bed and helping me take care of the house.
Friday we went out to his parents house after work, but just for him to help his dad in the garage. The girls liked the trip, but we were pressured to spend the night or have the kids spend the night, I hate that! It is even worse because I am waiting for Paige to loose her tooth. We spent time in the car with him, but that was it for Friday.
Today he went to work and took extra long coming home, then we had to run some errands. We just got home when it was time for him to go out. Leaving me with making dinner and putting the girls to bed by myself. There is a full dishwasher and a sink full of dishes following that one; then a mountain of laundry is on my couch waiting to be folded. To make matters worse all week long he has been asking me if Paige has socks in her dresser and I have been telling him that she doesn't. Can't he SEE that the mountain on the couch is growing and not shrinking. Beyond that it is ONLY my job to do the dishes and the laundry and to sweep and to mop and to pick up and to watch the girls 6 days a week.
I feel like it has been me and the girls and the house all week long and now HE NEEDS down time. But I am doing what I do EVERYDAY, all the time. And he is out seeing a movie that I want to see. It makes me even madder that money is tight and I would have NEVER suggested going out to a movie this week!!
It just makes me angry, I haven't had a girls night since I had Paige. I don't even know or have girls close enough for one AND HE NEEDS DOWN TIME!
Thank you for reading, but please know this is the ranting of a crazed woman, ready for some time of her own.
maybe I will be sick tomorrow!
2 comments:
Oh my goodness I know what you mean! I have to do everything to the point where I have to wake Erik up in the morning for work...He tells me It is MY JOB to cook, clean and watch the kids 24/7! I get absolutely NO help and if I ever ask for some he just tells me it is my job! He thinks what I do isn't an Actual Job. HAHA I would love to see him do what I do everyday without any help and we will see how he likes it? I am sorry you haven't had any girl time! Next time you are in town We are having a GIRLS NIGHT and leaving the kids HOME with the Boys! <3 you!
I totally know what you mean!!! Gary is the same way!! He sits on the computer all weekend and then gets mad at me because there is dishes that need to be done, and everything. I understand my duties as a housewife, but for crying out loud!! Don't be ridiculous!! I have no down time, but he HAS to get his computer time or he will "shut down". I agree with Shayna. We need to have a girls night!!!
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